MomSource Team member, Lynette Russell, shares her thoughts about becoming the “YOU” you want to be.
New Year, New You…we have all seen the articles, pictures and news stories. But are we setting ourselves up for failure? Research says it takes 23 days to form a habit and yet 71% of New Year’s resolutions last a paltry three weeks. Not to mention, do you really need a “new you”? That seems like a lot of pressure when maybe a “slightly better version of yourself” would be just as beneficial.
In an attempt to jump start my own mojo, I have been listening to inspirational podcasts (see my favs here). “Baby steps”, “attainable accomplishments”, “reasonable goals” are all buzz words to be successful in keeping resolutions, but some days even that seems hard. So, I decided to embrace my power of one. This has sort of become my mantra even though I did not start out wanting or needing a mantra (or so I thought). It has evolved over the past few weeks and seems to be working for me, so I thought I would share.
I have heard this term, “the power of one”, in a variety of places. It is a novel from the late 80’s which turned into a movie, it was part of a fundraising campaign for a nonprofit in more recent years, but I have taken this on to mean the power of one thing. Meaning one person, me, doing one thing everyday that means something to ME. In the past 24 days, there have been some “things” that are similar, like exercise, but there are many different “things” too. And these “things” are not always scheduled or on my to do list. Sometimes, the “thing” happens unexpectedly or naturally throughout my day.
I don’t want to bore you with each and every “thing” I have done or experienced but I did want to share a few of the more inspirational occurrences. I have done things like getting my nails done, had lunch with a girlfriend, or treating myself to a new blouse, all of which definitely make me happy. But I have also marveled at seeing a manatee while walking my dogs (yes, I am in Florida and we have been able to leave the house 😊). I have enjoyed giving warm hellos in our very fast paced morning, hugs for the grumpy 16 year old, sipping coffee (cocoa for her) with the snippy 14 year old and long wake up snuggles with the sweet 11 year old. I received a lovely note from the mom of a life long friend thanking me for our Christmas card, which went to 250+ families. This gesture prompted me to call her and catch up, it was the best 30 minutes I have spent in a long time
I am not going to lie, sometimes figuring out the one “thing” each day seems ominous and possibly forced. But on those days, I have found that cleaning out the junk drawer was more rewarding than my dread over doing it. Or that taking advantage of something right in front of me gave me an opportunity for a moment (or 30) of reflection and satisfaction.
As we approach the dreaded habit or failure mark on New Year’s resolutions, I encourage you to keep it simple. Valuing daily experiences, whether planned or unexpected, can help you become the “YOU” you want to be!