This past week we have talked about Time Management, why it is necessary, why we should do it, some of the challenges and tips on how to be more successful. All of this info from a lot of excellent credible sources and yet I feel we missed a little something.
Let me be on the record as saying that without our shared family calendar, life would be even more chaotic than it is naturally with two working parents and twin boys. Because both my husband and I have fluid work schedules it is critical that we know who is home to get the kids and when we need to call in reinforcements, otherwise it is the call from school that the ‘boys are waiting on mom or dad to get them’. So far we have managed to avoid that, but just barely. So, I get the need to be vigilant with our time management BUT……
I want to celebrate what happens in-between, what happens when we put the schedule away or let is slide for a day. We live in a time where everyone is striving for more, to get more done in a day, to be involved in more, to have our kids play every sport, play an instrument, play chess, participate in every group event, be invited to every party…. fill every slot on that calendar. And to what end? To leave us feeling exhausted, stressed, anxious (and we are the adults who know how to cope) – what is that doing to our kids?
So this year, we did the unthinkable, we said “choose”. We chose the ONE thing that we needed to feel good about ourselves. We had the boys each choose what ONE sport they wanted to play and they could choose ONE after school activity if they wanted. We made Friday night our ‘family night’, pizza and a movie every Friday night. We put on our pjs, eat pizza, popcorn and watch a movie as a family, it is our Free Night, our Night Off. And you know what, our boys start talking about Friday night on Tuesday. All of their friends talk about ‘our’ pizza and movie night. All of our friends know that Friday is off limits. Our unscheduled free night, became our most valued and protected night on the calendar. And the other nights, we are taking full advantage of the time in-between the colored boxes on the calendar, we are having some fun adventures, getting an extra hour or two at the park after school, taking hikes on the weekends, learning to play dominoes, learning to truly appreciate the “in-between time”.
My husband took the boys to the park yesterday while I was flying home and was taking some pictures that hopefully could be used for holiday cards – yes, planning ahead, just barely. And as I was looking through the shots, one picture stood out, the unposed picture, the picture he took in-between and it made me realize Life is What Happens In-Between takes. ❤️